Lost Friends......
Posted: Tuesday, 20 May 2008 |
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That peedie bairn never goes away, HL. Don't expect too much from other people is my motto!
Jill from EK
My thoughts exactly HL: For years hubby and i helped people we thought were good friends,helped them moneywise(never got any back but what the heck)through marriage breakups(stayed friends with both sides) always had an open house foodwise etc etc: then husband developed cancer and where were these "friends" haven't spoken to them since he was diagnosed-they change pavements etc never phone of course i still have a few really good friends who have supported me throughout the sad times and to them i'm eternelly grateful and i have learnt my lesson the hard way : i count on myself and only myself and yes at last i'l learning to be independant!
carol from over here
Thank you Hermit Life for bringing up this subject, for today, of all days, I siad goodbye to a very good and trusted friend. She left the island with her menagerie of animals. She loved Coll and her home, but alas, it was not to be. There were tears down at the pier, and as I write she will have arrived in Oban and making her way to her new home. Some bloggers will know her, she was a Coll blogger. One day I will do a blog about her, but not yet, it's too raw, the sight of her three horses being led along the beach by strangers, into a strange horse box, was just heart rendering. So yes, HL, a true friend is a very precious thing. Thank you again.
Squidgy the Otter from Isle of Coll
HL I am so sorry to read that. I know what a great friend you are, how good you are to your friends. Noone knows better than me, you listened to me when I was down. I know what it's like to lose a best friend. But just remind yourself your friendship is worth millions XXXXXXX
GerCelt from Dublin, Ireland
Sadly this seems to be true the world over! I wonder why "friends" get so fairweather when things get bad? I've had some wonderful friends stand by my side when my life has hit the rocks but I've seen my friends get totally ditched by those they had considered very good friends for many long years. It's a tradgedy really! On another note: I'm coming to Sanday with Erlend on May 30th. We're attending Mass at Saville in the morning. Is there any chance that a Hermit might be lurking there?? *Grin*
Michelle Therese from Hmmm
There are those – some of whom I love dearly – that when helping me, will always put themselves first. I admire your strength that you can stop turning to them. Sooner or later I turn back, even knowing I will be disappointed. Then there is the joy of the unconditional friend, the one that seems to turn up just when you need them. Hermit, I may not know you well, but you’ve a place in my heart. If ever there’s anything I can do . . . Wishing you the best, Salty.
Salty from Dublin
HL - I'm so sorry to read that. I've always found you to be a true friend - a rare commodity in this day and age. You hang on in there - you've still got me and quite a few others from the look of it.
Ellie from here
Squidgy: is the coll blogger who i think it is? if so i hope she will find a way to keep blogging!!!tell her to mail me via ibhq
carol from over here-
Hermit - you seem so sad - I think the problem is that we have so little time for life - for each other, and for being friends and helping others. We only need a few good friends. And I found that when I needed friends - they were there for me, and now I'm on my feet again - am I there for them? Thinking hard - I'm not so sure. I didn't mean to be like that, it just happens. I have a birthday present for a good friend - in the boot of my car - have I made the effort? Its 6 weeks late. That's me not making enough effort. Guilty. I blame Thatcher.
scallowawife from shetland
now you've made me think HL ... cos I believe I know exactly to whom of my friends I would go to for help, and exactly to whom I wouldn;t ... and I would be *very* surprised if I were wrong ... I always found that learning who will help, and who will just make the appropriate noises to your face has been a function of talking to them, weathering smaller, more trivial events with them, and most importantly, my own life experience and intuition - the way I 'read' people ... perhaps I've just been lucky ...
soaplady from got me wondering now ...
Now you are the best friend anyone could ever have! xx
Georgina Bass from Bradworthy
Deep blog, HL. We need friends but we have to be able to function without them. And friends that vanish are of course not true friendss ... and who needs those? In the end it is kind of self-regulating. But hard knocks are hard at any time.
Barney from swithiod receiving
Unfortunately I understand exactly where your coming from...I too have helped out a few 'friends' even took some in to our home when things were tough for them...and all we got for it was a mega kick in the teeth. Still didn't learn my lesson though...still wear my heart on my sleeve and leave myself wide open...I kow I can always depend on hubby he's my best friend...but there's plenty of friends I thought I had but when things changed so did they...thats life I guess :(
il from harris
You were there for me when I had so much weight on me shoulders I thought I may collapse from it all, and you carried it with me. Probably didn't realise it at the time...maybes lol I would not dishonour myself by shunning a dear friend as others may have shunned you. You know where I am ;)
Sif from Lanarkshire, Scotland
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