Here I Go Again On My Own
- 7 Oct 07, 10:43 PM
Forgive the WhiteSnake reference, although it does bring to mind Tawnee Kitaen writhing on the hood of a car. Can I say that? Anyway, I just broke up with my live-in boyfriend of three years, so it's just me from here on out. Well, me and the four people I started dating before the break-up. My sister advised me to avoid rebound syndrome and I was like, "Too late!" Although, does it count as rebound if they were there *before* the break-up? Anyhow...
It's gonna be hard. I'm losing my big, strong, able-bodied guy who did all the stuff that was hard for me, like taking out the garbage, carting my wheelchair down the stairs, etc. The local health care system doesn't provide Personal Assistants to PWDs unless they're in much harder shape than me, which is sad, considering that I can barely walk some days. Obviously, I can't stay here with the two flights of stairs. I plan to move out, get a roommate, find an accessible place, and get a power chair to make life easier. Now that I have to do my own shopping and errands with no strong guy to carry my stuff, I'm gonna need that.
I already have two people offering to be my roommate...but they're disabled too! However, they're disabled in different ways, so it could work. We'll see what happens. I'm still not sure who I'm gonna live with yet.
It would be ideal to find someone to crash here and contribute whatever they can until I find a good place. It can take a while to find an accessible, affordable place in Vancouver. We have a huge rent bubble because of the upcoming Olympics on 2010, so rent keeps increasing at a disgusting rate. I'm already paying $936 a month for a 1 bdr + den. I really can't afford more than that. Disabled coops are my best bet, but they are not the most tolerant of my BDSM lifestyle.
Break-ups suck when you're disabled and your partner was your caretaker.
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Just be glad that you're not in Washington, DC. Up in these parts, it would be enormously difficult to find even a tiny efficiency for the amount you're paying now--at least if you want a half way decent neighborhood where you don't have to freak with worry that you'll be shot by a stray bullet while sitting innocently in your living room. To get a bedroom PLUS a den would take maybe a good $2000 a month.
Okay, sorry, I know that doesn't really help. I just couldn't resist pointing out that most of the rest of the world outside of DC and a very few other global cities are pretty spoiled when it comes to housing costs!
Best of luck with finding an accessible place. Does it help that you live in a country with mainly newer-built houses? We had a hell of a time finding accessible places among the Victorian/Edwardian conversions of north London - those Victorians just loved steps...
Powerchairs are awesome when you need to get stuff done on your own. Best of luck with finding one of those, too. I recommend second-hand.