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Please, make it eventually available for download.

Sex season... what next. My view is this world now has gotten too sex obsessed, I regret my first time and that was when I was 17 :L and my other view is that sex is not that great some make out it to be.

Why is it seen as necessary to place so much attention on sex ??

The need for sex diminishes the more secure we feel in our selves, and that security can be found in many ways; the hormones this program calls 'sex hormones' are not just for sex, they are for our creativity. It is all a question of choice and what you want to do with your free will. Turning yourself into an erogenous zone leaves little care for actually making the world a better place to live in.

Human beings have evolved through the formulation of social mores that allow for creative development beyond the use of sex for ego pampering and narrow self-esteem. The business world, and indeed all the corruption that is in it and in politics, thrives upon the fact that the general populace is busy satisfying insatiable needs and wants. In that respect, sex is the biggest panacea, and so long as people's attention can be drawn to it as a quick fix for their insecurities nothing substantial will improve in the world.

Dictators, rapist, murderers, and pedos use it for the same purpose...narrow minded self-esteem to boost deep anxieties about life, like insecure chimpanzees.

Sex at it's best really is about making children and providing for them. The simpe act, without all the ego-pampering and preening, is very pleasurable for any couple that loves one another, and ensures partners are committed to nurturing a family in an atmosphere of trust. With that we can create societies that care for everyone, rather than societies made of human erogenous zones wired up to some artificial matrix.

I'm hoping for some programs that will help our children to grow up and see their potential as citizens of the world, not mere intellectual erogenous zones.

I just watched the Confessions Of A Sex Addict in 91Èȱ¬3 and I have to say it touched a nerve with me. I found myself becoming upset as I went through a very similar mindest and I can totally empathise with Jeff Leach. It is a very serious problem that stems from a complete lack of self-esteem and a lack of belonging. If possible, I would like to talk to one of your researchers about this as this program was like looking in a mirror and I could really relate to it.

A little like boniek Confessions Of A Sex Addict touched a nerve with me but for slightly different reasons. I sat and watched a 20 yr younger version of the man that I love and I related to the feelings of the women but also to Jeff. It also gave me an insight into why he has behaved has he has after hearing Jeff. All i can say to Jeff is that like all addictions he will never fully recover but with the love of a good woman who is there to support him will learn to control things. We are 5 yrs on and still work in progress. Maybe ot time to ditch the list and forget about it. finding a documented list with your name on it is horrendous especially when there are names following. Good luck Jeff like my man you are basically and great guy you lost sight of social boundaries and the true sense of who you are without the ego stroking of womens attention filling a void. would be interesting to know how you get on. would like my man to see it but not sure how to suggest it lol. Thanks x

I have just watched like a virgin .....

I'm am very proud to say I'm a virgin at the age 23 :) as in today worlds tht sounds old rite ??
I've never kissed a boy or done anything nor had a relationship ! I no its sounds like gosh she has no mates or confindance well I'm the complete other way I have loads of friends and loads of confindance !! I just don't see the whole big issue of sex !!
There is so much on tv about sex and Internet plays a big part on young people's lives and tbh people wounder why we have one of he biggest teenage pregnancy it's because the more young people watch tv programmes the more they think ... Heck I better get move on !! I however don't it's not cos I don't want to have sex of course I do but when I meet the rite man .... Sounds stupid but come on how many of you reading this and how many people in the world would give there right arm to say I wish I waited or still b a virgin !! I'm proud 23 yer old living my life the way I want .

Thanks to Jeff and everybody who has commented. Seven years ago I would have envied Jeff. My own sexually compulsive behaviours took place mostly in isolation, although I fantasised about anonymous sex round the clock and occassionally would sleep with some stranger I wouldn't normally share a bus stop with. They probably felt the same way about me! For years I had been living for the excitement and the sense of safety and comfort that addictive sex gave me. My behaviours progressed into activities that were harming myself and others, but so long as I had the prospect of another 'fix', I could ignore the destruction building up in my life.

Eventually a family member discovered the worst of my behaviours - actions that I couldn't even explain or justify to myself. Their grief and horror burst the bubble I had been living in for so many years and I came to my first meeting of Sex Addicts Anonymous in Plymouth. I didn't know what to expect, but the men and women I met seemed happy and normal. It took a while before I began to see myself in the stories they shared. The therapist who Jeff visited hit the nail on the head: there isn't a list of behaviours that defines me as a sex addict. I am a sex addict because when I start certain sexual behaviours I loose control of what I do, where I do it and how long I do it for. For a 'normal' person, the solution is simple: just don't do it again! What defines me as a sex addict is that no matter how painful the consequences of my behaviour - the fear, remorse and confusion that I would have to live through afterwards - I would ALWAYS make it OK in my head to return to those behaviours.

I took the Twelve Steps of Sex Addicts Anonymous. I didn't believe they would work, but I had no 'Plan B'. To my astonishment, I have seen the promises made to me as a newcomer coming true: I have been free of the obsession to act out since I gave in completely to the programme and followed the good example of those who came before me. I don't feel like a creep anymore and I can look the world in the eye. I've applied the programme in my daily life and as a result, I have healthy relationships with friends and family and I'm happy in my own skin. I've been able to take some responsibility for my life and even grow up a little.

I hated the idea of being a Sex Addict - it seemed like the cure was as bad as the disease. Turning up at SAA has proved to be the single best decision of my life and I would encourage anyone - including Jeff, if things don't work out for him! - to do contact the fellowship and attend a meeting. You can find SAA online: there are national, UK and local group websites that are easily found with your favourite search engine. I would encourage anyone who suspects that they have lost the power of choice over some of their sexual behaviours to attend a meeting - especially my own home group in Plymouth!

Yawn.
Fairly typical subject matter for BeeB 3. Why? - cheap TV rules all.